I always told you that I won’t spoil you by only telling you about the good things of living far away from home. So today I will talk about one of the big downsides. Our good friends got married this weekend, my little niece will celebrate her 6th birthday next week and my best friend will become a father any day now. And guess what: I will miss all of it. A lot of our friends celebrated weddings this year, the arrivals of their firstborn or important birthdays. All of those are moments where it is really hard for me to live here.
I am very lucky to have good friends that won’t ever let me down or come anything between or friendship even if I live a few thousand miles away. But I can’t hust hop on the next flight to live through big moments with them and that will always stand between us. It just really hurts me sometimes how I just can’t be there and even more that this will never change. Being away from the dear people in your life probably is the biggest downside of moving away. And also the most hurtful one.
On days like these it takes a lot of energy to just pull through and don’t let yourself drown in sadness. Even if your friend’s lifes happen in another timezone and far far away, you have to keep building your own life in your new home. And that can’t be filled with sadness. In moments like these I always remind myself of why we moved here in the first place. Which is to pursue or dreams and life the dream we always had. And the easiest thing to do that is by enjoying the beauty of our home – which for the most part for me means go to the beach and visit places I love.
It took me a little time to get these sad feelings under control and not mistake them for thoughts of moving back to Germany. Now I more try to cherish them, because they show me how lucky I am to still have those really close people in Germany. People who love me for actually making my dream come true and will always be there when I come back – even if it’s just to visit.